Tuesday, April 2, 2013

You Can't Sexually Assault a Slut and other pearls of Twitter wisdom

Now now, guys, calm down. Dylan Moore, aka, "@MrCPT", is not a sexist pig. He doesn't advocate rape culture. All he said was this:
"If you are gonna wear a skirt with no panties then you really can't blame a brother for having a touch..."
He seems to have deleted this initial tweet, but here's a screenshot of him restating the sentiment:



Of course, even though he is clearly stating that it's OK for a guy to sexually grope a woman on the basis of "she's not wearing panties", Mr CPT hastily clarified.


And explained what sort of person disagreed with him.


And clarified some more.



I am honestly unsure how to explain to this person that, by saying a woman's clothes and actions (namely, no panties and smiling) are able to transfer ownership of said woman's body to any man who'd like to have a grab, he is advocating rape culture. @MrCPT, as soon as you talk about a woman's clothing and actions being "invitations" for unasked for and unwelcome physical contact, you are supporting rape culture. There's simply no getting around it. The fact that you are seemingly oblivious to what you've said wrong here is really, 100% beyond me. But let's have a go anyway. First, we need to discuss this word "slut" and what it means.


Let's assume the word "slut" refers to a woman who enjoys sex, actively pursues sex and doesn't feel much shame about her naked body. Unless you are a member of a very rigidly religious community who believes sex is shameful, or you're from 200 years ago and believe women are incapable of enjoying sex, it's unclear why such a person is someone you'd hate or why you consider their choice of morals to be your business. Even pushing that aside, "wanting sex" is not the same thing as "any man's property to touch at will". Maybe she does want to get laid that night, and that's fine. When she wants to be touched, she'll probably mention it. That doesn't mean any guy can walk up to her and stick his hand on her vagina without her invitation, not even if she smiled at him

There's an old anecdote of a female who likes to dress in low-cut tops and then gets angry when people stare. "If you don't want people to look, don't put it on display". This is the sort of thinking I tend to agree with, and this hypothetical female you claim to have made up for god knows what reason does have her vagina on display. One can assume this means she's OK with you looking at it.

This does not mean she's OK with you touching it. Again, not even if she's smiled at you. No, you do not get to touch it just because you can see it, and a smile is not the same thing as consent. You are not a four year old, and advocating being Mr Grabby in this hypothetical situation does not make you amusingly controversial, it makes you pretty fucking creepy.

Really. She could be screwing every guy you know. She might even wink at you. This still isn't an invitation for you to simply help yourself to physical contact. Not even a "slut" is someone that you get to touch at will. The fact that you don't understand this or how it relates to rape culture is seriously fucking worrying.

Let's look at some of the other claims you've made today.


The concept that rape culture is somehow linked only to men is absolute bollocks. As some of your female supporters have shown today, women are equally as capable as men of slut shaming, advocating rape culture and victim blaming. 


Ye olde "you disagree with the man therefore you must be a slut" approach.


This second tweet is an exceptionally brilliant example of a, for want of a better word, "misogynist" woman.

Here is a female who is both actually against feminists (people - not necessarily females - who support equal rights for both men and women) and is bothered by the fact that some women don't shave.   Now, I shave, and I don't for a moment believe you have to give up your razor to be a feminist, but I am seriously disturbed at a woman telling another woman to shut up, stop telling a man off, and go shave something. What's next? Women yelling "tits or gtfo" or "make him a sandwich" at other women?

I also seriously hope Skye doesn't do anything that would be illegal if it weren't for feminists, such as vote, or  display herself wantonly in a bathing suit that doesn't cover her ankles...oh wait.

*edit* Skye Barry would like you to know that, despite using the word feminist as an insult, she's not against feminists, and despite making a fuss about @liliradloff not shaving, she's not body shaming anyone.


Eh, sure. In the name of fairness, here's her updated comments on the matter.


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On the flip side, men are quite capable of not being pig-headed dickwads. This is not a game of man vs woman. 

Now, towards the end of this whole ugly thing, you insisted to many people, including myself, that you had been misquoted, misinterpreted, and that words had been put in your mouth. What you don't seem to understand is people aren't upset with you over one misinterpreted tweet. People are upset with your entire statement in general, which keeps getting worse and worse.






So there you go ladies. MrCPT is not a sexist. You're just overreacting. He respects women. Providing they're not sluts. Or feminists. Or ugly. Or disagree with him.

I have been told I'm going on about this too much. Possibly I am, but it bothers me that, not only does @MrCPT still not understand exactly what is wrong with his attitude, he has a multitude of followers and supporters, many of whom are female, who agree with him. I really do not believe it's unfair or an overreaction to suggest that something is seriously wrong here.

Much love

Kitty

48 comments:

  1. Thank you Kitty for a succinct summation of the thread. I have been outraged and horrified all day at the arrogance and total lack of comprehension as to why some of us are very angry. In the 60's we were slut shamed for going braless, nipples under a "T" were considered "asking for it". Fight the good fight and perhaps in some near future we will be at liberty to own our own bodies.

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  2. I do NOT support @MrCPT, I detest his statements. My tweet was NOT "slut shaming, advocating rape culture and victim blaming". Despicable calumny calling me a "misogynist" woman. I'm NOT against feminists, I DO support equal rights for men & women. And I am NOT "bothered that some women don't shave".

    My tweet was actually just stating that I think @liliradloff using @Women24's media platform for a personal issue is overboard and unprofessional. I was also suggesting that 'some' feminists take things to the extreme (like using @Women24's twitter to continue a personal feud). Speaking of unprofessional, I would have preferred if you had contacted me for my opinion rather than write a blog post filled with accusations based on one tweet. You've managed to extract, interpret and write some seriously offensive comments about me, all based on one solitary tweet, which said nothing-of-the-like.

    My suggestion would be to retract the parts in your blog post about me, contact me for my opinion, and then comment on me. You are likely to find my actual feelings on the topic are light-years away from the way you've portrayed me. Unfortunately as things stand, if this blog is not changed, then I do feel this needs to be reviewed by an attorney when the office opens this morning.

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    1. I did tweet you yesterday and hey, got no reply. Can you explain using the word "feminist" as an insult? You didn't ask why Women24 have to hire the biggest misandrists. You asked why they had to hire the biggest feminists - implying that there's something wrong with being a feminist. You also felt it was vital to mention the fact that this woman doesn't shave, again the clear implications being negative.

      Still, I've updated the post with your clarifications.

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    2. Skye. Where do I start? Twitter is a public forum. Why would anyone need to contact you for further opinion? Lili is a columnist, and she writes about issues she finds interesting - not issues that don't offend you. It is not unprofessional for her to write about that... because it is her JOB to do that. On that note, this is a blog, so professionalism is not on the table here either. You are angry, you are ranting, and you are damning yourself further by defending your inane tweets.
      Also, it's just flat-out rude to tell someone to shave something (at the very least, the manner you told her was rude). It was obviously intended as an insult, so if you want to dish it out, learn to eat it.

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    3. Women24 is feminist.
      Lawyers can only step in for slander, and slander is when something is untrue. Since you did say those things, it is not slander.

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  3. You and I aren't really... friends, Kitty, but I agree with all you have said and this was a really well written post.
    Something I found hilarious (and sad) was that MrCPT didn't reply to tweets from MEN who disagreed with him. Probably because people could link it to his profile and see just how many there were. I'm also sad that I didn't see tweets from some of the popular male Twitter accounts - just silence.
    It's also horrifying to see how prevalent this kind of thinking is. Downright scary.

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    1. Thank you Alex. I appreciate it. I agree about the popular male Twitter accounts, but I was happy to see you and others weren't staying quiet.

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  4. I don't think the point of all of this should be lost attacking Skye. I get what she is saying even if I don't agree with her. I think Lili is extreme, aggressive and strident: not traits I admire, however, I do not dispute or disagree with her calling out Dylan Moore. Perhaps she would have had more success had she not attacked him - rather engaged with him and tried to open discourse - you do attract more bees with honey etc. And I think a more appropriate response when representing a brand because even if you are tweeting from your personal account, the lines are invariably blurred. In conclusion though I think Dylan Moore represents so much of the subtle victim blaming, slut shaming culture that is utterly pervasive in this society. Perhaps Skye you should analyse your comment and see that you were wrong to call out feminists etc, as if it is a bad thing. If only Dylan would take a quiet moment and really think about what he said and come to the understanding that it is wrong. Even a prostitute selling sex does not invite unwanted touch or rape. No. That is like saying a 3 year old girl running around naked deserves to be raped by the sick peadophile who happens to be her uncle. No. Dylan should not have a voice to so many followers and he could actually make such a huge change to society if he only self examined long enough to realise his errors. Lili, attacking somebody doesn't always get the end result that you would have liked to achieve.

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    1. And I disagree that it's more important to body shame Lili and whine about Women24 hiring feminists than it is to call out a man who avidly and unashamedly supports rape-culture. Skye chose to make a fuss about Women24 hiring feminists *gasp* and Lili not shaving *gasp* but all she initially had to say about MrCPT was she's "not a fan".

      I'm not the one with screwed up priorities here.

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  5. Thanks for posting this! I missed the entire thing going down and was struggling to piece it together. I am completely in agreement with your analysis and have hastily unfollowed the guy.

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  6. Again the attacking. I never said you were, would just hate to get the great point of your blogpost lost in the Skye issue - which is valid but not the point.

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    1. I feel it's part of the point, at least the point I'm trying to make. But I do understand that not everyone agrees.

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  7. I am not sure how to react to all this. Seriously. In a country like south Africa I find it incredibly bothersome that people don't recognise the consequences of such statements or the potential damage it could do.

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  8. HAHAHAHHAHHAHAHA, women are all pieces of shit!!!! OPEN LEGS FLASH OR NO OPEN LEGS, they deserve to be raped. A shout out to all sluts and whores who keep up a good supply of pussy! and fuck you all women who deny and are prim bitches, you the ones who gonna get raped!!! LOL

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  9. Have you gone to check out Dylan Moore's facebook profile - have a look at his mother. 'nuff said on why he views women the way he does?

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    1. I don't think turning the attention to Dylan's mother helps the issue any. He's responsible for his own views and his own actions.

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  10. Bloke here. I missed most of it yesterday but was kinda appalled once I started looking into the whole thing and got led to this post. I am amazed that anyone can still maintain a "cold war" type paradigm to sexual relations. He seems to be saying "this is my socially accepted behavior & this is your socially accepted behavior, those are the lines, if you cross them, then I can do what I like". How can he not understand that his actions should be governed by his own morals/ethics, no matter what is put in front of him. I may criticize a girl who sits on a high bar stool in a mini-skirt with no pants on (and I am also happy to admit there are people who may think this behavior acceptable), but I'm also gonna judge the idiot who steps over for a feel. I'd be embarrassed if a friend's entire understanding of dealing with people of the opposite sex was based on a heirachy of what sexual acts he can perform according to their dress code.

    What are @MrCPT's morals, does he have a big book of rules of what he can do/can't do? Can he cop a feel, give her a little slap, slip it in, where does his rule book say he must stop? And if she is bra-less does that change what he can do on the above list of activities?
    What are the classless girl's rights in the situation? When did she accept that not wearing pants means she must submit to every bloke in the club? Is she aware that her dresscode has now nullified the law?

    Its a juvenile way of looking at the world, end of story. His follow-up tweets simply expose his crassness & unwillingness to actually examine what has upset people.

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  11. Ok this @MrCPT is a fool, but let's reverse the situation for a second. What if a guy had flashed a lady and smiled at her. I'm wondering whether ANYONE here would consider it rape or sexual assault if she indulged herself by touching him.

    Before you jump on the feminist bandwagon, think honestly about this. While I'm at it, can we please find a better word than 'feminist' for someone who supports equal rights. Seems kinda silly to me.

    According to Wikipedia (trust them if you will) the definition of 'feminist' is: Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women.

    I don't see anything in there about men's rights.

    Just call yourself a humanist or something....

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    1. "What if a guy had flashed a lady and smiled at her. I'm wondering whether ANYONE here would consider it rape or sexual assault if she indulged herself by touching him."

      Actually, yes. This might come as a surprise, but it's still rape if the genders are reversed. Whether it's man-on-man, man-on-woman, woman-on-woman or man-on-man, it's rape/sexual assault if anyone touches anyone in a sexual manner without permission.

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    2. Yeah, this is a non-argument. Of course this would constitute sexual assault if it were reversed. To use a different scenario, if a straight guy goes to the beach in a speedo, he would not believe this gives a gay guy an excuse to cop a feel. Not even if the straight guy goes in the water, his speedo is white, or he asks the gay guy to put suntan lotion on his back. Your genitals are your own, they are not public property. This is something we learn as toddlers; why are we struggling to understand it now?

      With regards to the "why don't you just call it humanist" whine, feminism is, by definition, the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women *equal* to those of men. Not better rights. Not more rights. Equal rights. Why is it "feminism" and not "humanism"? Well, for starters, humanism means something else entirely and I am a humanist, (and humanists are feminist http://www.americanhumanist.org/news/details/2013-04-an-open-letter-to-the-secular-community) but feminism refers specifically to women because was the gender that needed to be raised up for this equality to be reached.

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    3. OK ladies, relax. Try reading what i wrote before disagreeing with something i didn't say. Thanks

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    4. Have you considered taking your own advice?

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    5. I have, and yes, I have. I'm not trying to argue here, just wanted to point out the difference in attitude towards the actions of men and women. It seems to me that sexual assault by a woman against a man is basically laughed at. Clearly my point was missed...

      "This is something we learn as toddlers; why are we struggling to understand it now?"

      I must say I don't appreciate you condescending tone here very much. I understand perfectly well thank you.

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    6. Ok, let me try explain.

      "Ok this @MrCPT is a fool, but let's reverse the situation for a second. What if a guy had flashed a lady and smiled at her. I'm wondering whether ANYONE here would consider it rape or sexual assault if she indulged herself by touching him."

      This suggestion that no one would consider it sexual assault if the roles were reversed has absolutely no basis in fact. You seems to think that, if the roles were reversed, no one would call it sexual harassment. I disagree. Sexual harassment is sexual harassment.

      "Before you jump on the feminist bandwagon, think honestly about this. While I'm at it, can we please find a better word than 'feminist' for someone who supports equal rights. Seems kinda silly to me.

      According to Wikipedia (trust them if you will) the definition of 'feminist' is: Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women.
      I don't see anything in there about men's rights.
      Just call yourself a humanist or something...."

      And before you jump on the feminists-are-man-haters bandwagon, consider the fact that I have thought long and hard about feminism, and that I'm not on a bandwagon. Yes, you have some arguments that, to you, suggest the word feminist is inherently sexist. I have heard these arguments before, and I find them to be not only unconvincing, but a bit straw-grasping in the attempt to discredit feminism.

      "Try reading what i wrote before disagreeing with something i didn't say."

      And yet you're OK with assuming I "jumped on the feminist bandwagon". This is a huge assumption for you to make, not to mention an insulting one, and it's based one hundred percent in prejudice over fact. So, ya know, don't lecture me on straw manning.

      "I must say I don't appreciate you condescending tone here very much. I understand perfectly well thank you."

      Telling myself and Anya to "relax", especially when all I did was reply to your arguments, is pretty condescending. I replied to your comments, and your reply to this, rather than argue further, was to treat me like I'm hysterical. You're in a glass house. Maybe don't throw so many stones?

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    7. Thank you for missing the point entirely, good day.

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    8. How have I missed the point? Can you back up this statement?

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    9. I support Men's Lib. This means that I think men are capable of more than society gives them credit for. Men can be abused and raped, and I know it happens, but it is less of an international pandemic, although this might be due to the stigma attached to even acknowledging that the assault took place.

      That said, Feminism exists because women are NOT equal. Just like there is no specially marked "able bodied" parking next to the "disabled", there is no need for people to get over excited about men being equal because they already are. Men are the top of the gender food chain, and therefor don't need an 'ism'.

      Men in particular should welcome feminism and be outspoken supporters, because a equal society helps all. Rape Culture does negatively effect men too. When men being at all feminine is seen as less than, this makes men who want to be different looked down upon. Men are degraded if they don't join in the harassment. Words like 'pussy' 'cunt' and 'poes' are used to describe them. Stop and think about these words. They are all about females. The language often used to insult men is based on female genitals. That should say that society and culture value women below men, as women are hardly ever described as 'dicks' and 'cocks' but men are. In fact being a 'dick' is much better than being a 'cunt' in the lexicon of insults.

      Be a Feminist, stand up for Women's Rights and take the opportunity to rewrite gender relations, to rewrite cultural norms and rewrite the role that men are expected to take.

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  12. First off I don’t believe there is any situation in which you can condone sexual abuse but the topic of female objectification has been brought to the front in many forms. The Stuebenville situation has been a travesty in the sympathy they have received and the length of sentence handed down. This was a heavy situation handed too lightly. Conversely the Adria Richards debacle was of a lesser degree yet got way too much attention it deserved and resulted in serious implications yet its sentiments are mirrored in this debate.

    This discussion should be about how the “boy’s club” believe they are untouchable and without recourse. My argument is this, so please feel free to counter logically. We do not live in a happy day scenario, we do not live in bubbles, no matter how you look at it, elements of our lives are bound to events and beliefs in conflict of our own. I’m looking at the thousands of years of Abrohamic religions here and there attitude towards woman. I’m looking at our capitalist democracy and the manner in which we fight for our jobs, to feed ourselves and so on as no one will do it for us. This is our survival instinct kicking in. This does not exempt one from murder, rape or acting without forethought but it is a factor that is intrinsic to our humanity, both natural and constructed.

    Men are not governed by instinct but the manner in which the above is disregarded without influence is completely ignorant. Yes, the attitude towards woman must change and has been slowly (a little too slow, agreed). But in order for these misogynistic views to change for the better you need to validate what it is changing from. Blindly believing ideals without the context of the real world is dangerous and idealistic and no result will come of it, especially overnight.

    Don’t attack and transform your dogma into an agenda like Adria did. This in no way means you should back down from the fight, on the contrary, be pragmatic, I think you should now the “enemy” and instead of persecution attempt at education and rehabilitation.

    Please let us debate the issue! No straw mans! I am open minded and willing to listen.

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    1. This post tries to explain to MrCPT exactly why his tweets are considered offensive. At what point am I guilty of persecution rather than education?

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    2. I was hoping you were going to comment on the contents of what I said about societal norms but ok, in response to your question, if your sole goal was to educate MrCPT you needn't write a blog post, you would have spoken with him directly, asked him questions, attempt to understand his point of view, no matter how ignorant, and then enlighten him. If no fruit were to come from the discussion then by all means make the shaming public with all the unarguable facts at hand. Anything before that is self promotion as the cause becomes second priority behind the scandal. Im thinking of Adria here.


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    3. Many people tried this, including myself. MrCPT's response has been to insist that he's 100% in the right and anyone who disagrees is a slut. This has nothing to do with Adria. This is about a very popular dude who lives in Cape Town and who is vehemently and with a great deal of support advocating rape culture, and about speaking out against this kind of mentality that blindly accepts his attitude.

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    4. You can't really draw a comparison to Adria Richards. She took issue with something that was said in person and chose to make her complaint in a very public way. MrCPT, on the other hand, has repeatedly said offensive and misogynistic things in a very public forum that he has built a brand around. Many people (including the blog author) tried to engage him on the same forum, and were met with ridicule and derision. I believe this follows your steps fairly well regarding direct discussion, in addition to providing a contextual summary of the incident for others who may be influenced by the wanker.

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    5. You're both right, this was not the original point I was trying to make but this is Kitty's blog, and her discussion. Difficult for me to defend this dudes inane tweet as everyone should be held personally accountable for their actions.

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  13. I've followed @MrCPT on Twitter for a while now and can honestly say that I am not at all shocked by what he said.

    I've seen him tweet horrible things about waitresses and girls at clubs, often calling them sluts and swearing at them. He uses words like "poes" and "cunt" on almost a daily basis, in fact, a majority of his tweets about women are degrading in some way or another.

    He tweeted the following on June 14th 2011:

    "@MrCPT: So my mate Tam is a #Hooters slut, I mean waitress. Definitely going for a rub and tug soon http://yfrog.com/kejbkdj"

    This one's from February 2nd 2013:

    "Jesus the service at @cafesofiasa Camps Bay is fucking useless! This slut serving us needs to pick her lip up off the floor #brandfail
    2013-02-02"

    I don't know him personally but his public personality is disgusting and I can't actually believe this many women are defending him. @StephanieBe is a radio presenter for 5fm, if I'm not mistaken, and she's openly supporting him. He's quick to claim he was misunderstood but this isn't the first time he's insulted women and it won't be the last.

    I'm glad women are letting him know that this isn't ok, that he crossed the line and that we won't stand for this kind of abuse. At the same time, I'm disappointed that he's openly defending what he said by RTing all his support and that people are playing down his blatant degradation.

    He refers to women as sluts, insulting our looks, hair and private parts, swearing at us, degrading and objectifying us but he is NOT a sexist nor does he advocate rape culture. Right.

    What an asshole.

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  14. How can someone who is so actively odious be so oblivious of what he's actually doing? It's rather extraordinary really, and I find it particularly strange that his comments haven't been removed. I realize that Freedom of Speech comes into play, but for how long and to what point?

    And yes, what an arsehole.

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    1. "I realize that Freedom of Speech comes into play, but for how long and to what point?"
      I realize this is slightly off topic, but one either has freedom of speak, or one doesn't. Freedom isn't restricted. Free speech or no free speech, you chose.

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    2. Of course, I support Freedom of Speech here.

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  15. This is why we should not be reclaiming the word slut (aka debate surrounding Slut Walk). We should make this word so offensive that no one dares uttering it in public (like some racial slurs). As women, we should make it clear that we are never okay with words such as slut, whore or harlot.

    Btw, excellent post.

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    1. No, you should be able to use any word and you should be able to say anything.

      Which means that anyone should be able to reply, respond and call you an arse-hole when you do and they should be able to be damn insulting if they choose to.

      You can say what you like, you can't do what you like.

      The right for him to call her a dirty slut is a completely different thing to him uninvitedly ramming his fingers in her cunt because he thinks she is a dirty slut.

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    2. The problem with slut shaming is it has, to some people, become more shameful for a woman to be a slut than it is for a man to be a rapist.

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  16. Great post, Kitty. Agree wholeheartedly x

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  17. Kitty, this was very well done. Thank you. Any thoughts on his 'apology'? As someone else on Twitter put it, it's basically just "I'm sorry, BUT...". I also take exception to his constant use of the terms "females" and "chicks". We're WOMEN, FFS.

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    1. Thank you :) Yes, I do have thoughts on the "apology". It's a statement that insists that he's said and done nothing wrong, and it carries on with the victim-blaming and slut-shaming lines. It is nothing more than a whine, and it shows that Dylan still completely doesn't understand what rape culture actually is.

      That said, I do feel it's an improvement on yesterday, where his statement was "shut your bek already". He finally recognized that he couldn't just change the subject and move on. This is, at least, something.

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  18. Adding to what Faye said above, I used to follow him but quickly picked up on his deep hatred for women, masked as "jokey" slut comments/remarks and unfollowed. i grew tired of his constant references to females as merely "tits and ass". I'm by no means a prude, and any guy who knows me can confirm that I'm very open-minded but his crude opinions cross the line. The final straw for me was when he referred to the female body parts he so loves (tits and ass) as "my favourite items". Yes, items! As in the items on your grocery shopping list! I feel very sorry for his mother and sisters (if he has any), although I highly doubt he uses his much-loved vulgarities (such as: poes, flaring lips, slet and many others) around them!

    So the fact it's taken this long for the twitter community to finally notice his smutty updates, is quite strange as he's been getting away with it for ages now.

    In his eyes, there are two types of women: bitches and sluts. Bitches being those feminists who call him out (who by the way, are fat/ugly and don't shave according to him and his cronies), and sluts being those women who don't wear any panties and smile at drunk guys. An attitude which screams ignorance and immaturity!

    What is a shock to me, is the massive female following he seems to have! His throngs of female admirers (most of whom happen to be bikini-clad in their avi pics which makes me wonder if they're just wannabee models trying to get exposure through his blog) are quick to add that "this is just his way", that he is known for being a "shock jock" and that we should all calm down! It's this kind of mentality from women, that bothers me most. So they are honestly ok with the fact that he goes on and on and on about sluts, whores and slets on his TL?

    Anyone who disagrees with him, is pelted with insults such as: clowns, retards, bitches, naaiers. I'm actually shocked he talks to other people that way and gets away with it. If he were using hate speech around race, this would be another matter entirely, but because its about gender, it's left to slide. And this is why SA is in the middle of a rape epidemic - because sentiments/attitudes like these are not held to task, and slowly start to permeate our everyday lives in the form of jokes and jibes.

    I'm by no means saying that he supports or condones rape, but I am saying that he is one of those few misogynists out there who contribute to an environment of rape culture. Which then makes the justice systems' job very difficult when it comes to prosecuting rapists. Because let's face it, rape is so common in SA thats its no longer shocking when another brutal gang rape occurs. We are a nation desensitized due to attitudes like these being allowed and tolerated.

    Lastly, I'm rather disgusted that brands such as Ceres, Stimorol, Bavaria, Steri Stumpie would even want to be associated with such smut (although I see some of the sponsors brands have since been removed from his website). It makes you wonder if the BM's concerned even know the basics of brand management. Brands need to be very careful about who they choose to align themselves with in the blogging/social media space, as more and more foot-in-mouth behaviour such as this comes to light. A guy who openly spews tits & ass/slut remarks, and actually has a blog post on which porn stars to follow on Twitter! Come on! It totally lacks professionalism. What you choose to do in your own time is really your perogative, but keep it in your personal capacity and away from your day job and your brand endorsements!

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    1. I just checked, and he no longer has any advertisements on his homepage, whereas two days ago there were five companies there...

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